I would be very surprised if the reference is unintentional. Despite the context of the line, the verse is commonly used in marriage vows as a promise of fidelity, love, and devotion. The force of the verse emanates from the unconditional nature of the promise. Ruth speaks the line to Naomi during their travels on the road to the town of Bethlehem – note here that Bethlehem is Naomi’s hometown and not Ruth’s– Naomi is the one heading home.
Does this matter? I think yes. Why else the line “take me out, and take me home” two lines later? People are flailing around in feels for the chorus for a good reason & here I am in silent awe of the songwriter & her craft.
- Who is the intended audience of the two questions?
- Are there multiple audiences?
- Is she expecting an answer?
- Are the questions both offerings in the face of an uncertain future?
How can you not love her, this brilliant mind?
But yes, though there’s an argument that the first question contains an element of permissiveness, both questions seem to be rhetorical. There’s a sense of wonder here, some surreal aspect to the space created by the intersection of these two individuals, something that’s soft and precious.
In support of this point, I note that Taylor seems to sing “[and I/ah]” after the line “forever and ever”.
- In effect: "forever and ever and I/ah – ”
- the line then breaks off into
- “take me out, and take me home.”
What did she mean to say before breaking the line off? There’s an undeniable beauty to restraint; that which goes unsaid,
perhaps because it’s delicate.
There’s a second pause in the chorus, and the lyric video includes the ellipses in the line “you’re my my my my […] lover.”
My brain fills the pause with the word “own”, but that’s off-topic.
What I love about this obvious pause is the contrast. Here you have a woman making an obvious claim (four repetitions & possessiveness, come on –), but faltering slightly before giving it a name. It evokes major handle-with-care lest the gods prove jealous vibes & it’s absolutely magical.
Unfortunately, this is where things get complicated.
One of the downsides in intertwining your personal narrative with your art is that it invites inevitable speculation & conjecture over the specifics. Inviting fans in is easy (and wildly beneficial, let’s be honest), but asking them to maintain a given level of distance is much harder. To sustain a relationship of that kind with your fans at that level of risk is even harder. Yes, it requires a certain degree of authenticity, but also a great deal of commitment & genuine belief.
That she’s managed to achieve that seemingly impossible balance speaks volumes & worthy of admiration in itself. Because of this, and because I don’t feel comfortable in doing so, there’s no attempt to tie the song to people. The standard disclaimer applies : what follows is based on a personal interpretation of the song & will inevitably be coloured by a certain lens.
I’m also rather pressed for time, hence the bullet-point format.
- Picks up the privacy of the shared space established by v1.
- Pronouns: “we” (subjective plural) & “our” (possessive plural).
- Explicit definition of the shared space “this is our place”.
- Giving something a name & establishing boundaries around it comes dangerously close to making a claim.
- It is the act of making a claim.
- There’s a real sense of acknowledgement here.
- If v1 establishes the positioning of the two individuals in relation to each other, v2 is about making that position known.
- “We could let our friends crash in the living room” is an echo of the very first line “we could leave the Christmas lights up ‘til January.”
- But one of these things is not like the other.
- Unlike the passive first line in v1 (which requires no action), v2 contemplates an active action to be taken by the we-unit.
- Notably, this action is witnessed by others.
- The “friends [who] crash in the living room.”
- Note also a real sense of agency: “we make the call.”
- This echoes v1: “we make the rules.”
- I’m almost tempted to describe v2 as rather possessive in tone, but that’s not quite right. Rather, I think it’s more the desire to know, and be known, and to have that fact known by others.
- See the bridge: “[L]adies and gentlemen, will you please stand.”
- See also the repetition in the chorus: “my, my, my, my [
- It is a sadly funny truth that not even Taylor Swift can stop “everyone who sees [her lover] from wanting [her lover].”
- And when you love someone, it’s a natural assumption that everyone else sees in them the same things you love too.
- So what do you do?
- Establish boundaries & make a claim & reciprocate accordingly.
- D’you hear it yet? Must she repeat herself?
- She’s “loved you three summers now,” but that’s not enough, is it?
- You’re her “honey”, her “dear”, and she wants it all.
- All your summers, to be exact.
- Go on[to the chorus].
- “Take [her] out and take [her] home.”
- (forever and ever).
this woman and her brain, I swear.
“overdramatic and true” indeed.
Shall we look at the the elephant in the room?
I’d rather not be baited into connecting the dots, but why do this?
- There is a Shakespearian play titled: All’s Well That Ends Well.
- It takes as a source the Third Day, Ninth Tale of The Decameron.
- There’s a general theme to the stories told on the Third Day.
“Endeth here the second day of the Decameron, beginneth the third, in which, under rule of Neifile, discourse is had of the fortune of such as have painfully acquired some much-coverted thing, or, having lost, have recovered it.”
(taken from the J.M. Rigg translation)
- All’s Well That Ends Well is one of Shakespeare’s problem plays.
- The girl gets the boy, but it’s rushed (& well, problematic).
- It’s hard to see why she insists on him.
- This lack of emotional payoff is partly why AWTEW is not one of the Bard’s popular plays.
- The male character (this prize) is awful.
- Really awful.
- Not what you’d call a magnetic-force-of-a-man.
- It’s ironic.
- He doesn’t want to marry her & she tricks him into marriage, but even by the end of it he doesn’t want her.
- Their married life would be miserable.
- But we don’t get to see their married life, because it’s a play & the play ends there.
- But all’s well that ends well, right?
- What I love about AWTEW is that Shakespeare toys with audience expectations of traditional happy endings in which everyone is married off.